Wednesday, May 28, 2014

My dad says that I can't hack it....

My dad says I can't hack it as a single parent of two kids.  Is there anything more upsetting?  I'm having an off week, and I'm still living with my parents, so that's part of the problem.

Starting off with a funny anecdote of what we do for our children.

On Saturday afternoon, I took SR and J-Bear to a park we don't usually go to.  It's got that great rubber tarmac so I thought I could watch SR play and J-Bear could crawl around and explore and not be confined to the stroller.  I invited another family to join us thinking they could also be my extra eyes.  But I hadn't been to this park in ages...and I didn't realize that when SR climbed up one part, she could explore all the way to the other side, far away from me.  Plus, there were sooooo many families there (it's at a community centre).  Poor J-Bear was confined to his stroller while I chased SR around and around.  But the funny comes in when we were about to leave.  I mentioned to SR that she would pee as soon as we got back to my parents' place.  Power of suggestion, she wanted to go immediately, even though we were at the car.  Obviously we walked all the way into the community centre (Canada spells centre with r-e), and that bathroom was closed.  So we had to go to the other bathroom.  And SR, didn't really have to pee, but her hairclip fell into the toilet.  I said, "oh well, we have to flush your hair clip".  That didn't go over so well - imagine my over dramatic SR melting down about her hair clip....so yes, I stuck my hand into the public toilet and fished it out.  Luckily she hadn't peed!  I did scrub and scrub my hand....the things we do for our kids!

Okay, so this week, I haven't slept in the past three days....the first night I had insomnia from either drinking coffee too late - I don't drink coffee, I drink decaf tea, but while staying with my parents, I have started to have some coffee since they make it fresh - or taking a tylenol cold and sinus daytime too close to bedtime.  The second night, their house was like a sweat lodge - the a/c broke and it was stifling here....J and I ended up downstairs and my parents woke us up throughout the night.  My dad wakes up early and didn't know we were down here - kept turning on the lights.  My mom goes to bed late and kept coming to the kitchen to make drinks and get snacks.

Then last night, J-Bear started with the wheezing and it turned into croup.  So three nights without sleep....I really can't function at all at this point.

I took J and SR to the pediatrician this morning - SR has a bad cold, she's shared it with all of us - and then dropped SR back at school.  The doctor wants J-Bear to have his iron checked b/c he's looking pale - well, duh, he's 24+ pounds and doesn't eat solids let alone any iron!!!  I've told him at every visit that he doesn't enjoy eating and he wasn't concerned until now.  So I stopped at my parents' for a minute and then was going to take J-Bear to the lab for the blood test.

On my way out, I backed my car right into my dad's car!  Let me say, I never have problems driving.  I have never had an accident that was my fault and I haven't been hit in years and years.  Luckily.  Recently I also backed right into a pole.  I'm starting to think that there is a blind spot when I back up for me to hit a pole and my dad's car - not to mention that I am soooooo completely exhausted.

My dad just asked why I'm not sleeping now while J is sleeping.  B/c I can't sleep with a stuffy nose, and I'll wake him going into the room.

I think we all need a little space around here...my alarm is installed and I was going to try to move in this week....now who knows.  I haven't bought any groceries yet and we need SR's bed and our bedding and clothes and toiletries moved in.  But I did go out and buy a water table for the backyard - I have my priorities straight :)

Here are a few pictures...it will show I have my act together....or else it will just show my cute kids :)  I know I can hack it, and everyone has their moments when things fall apart.  I just need some sleep and everything will look a lot better and more manageable!
When they aren't tackling each other, they can be quite affectionate.

Love his golfer pants.

Pulling to standing any chance he can!  So proud of himself.

SR loves to pretend she's Elsa from Frozen.  We haven't even seen the whole movie yet, and we Fast Forward most of it.  "Mommy, you be Anna and pull off one of my gloves."

5 comments:

  1. I sounds to me like your DAD can't hack you being a single parent of two kids! You sound like you're doing great given the circumstances! Hope you're able to move soon & get into your own space.

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  2. Ok, SR and Finn need to get together and play Frozen! :)

    It will be so much better once you're in your own house - it sounds like you need sleep AND space!

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  3. BTW - I'm sorry your dad said that. Even though you know it's not true (and WE know it's not true) it's got to hurt, coming from your parent.

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  4. If it were just you with no help whatsoever you would be taking fine care of your children - you would do whatever you have to do. It is just extremely hard and overwhelming (and frankly, miserable) sometimes. So help from your parents is wonderful. But putting you down is certainly no help!

    Gosh I hope JBear starts eating soon. When Carys was still exclusively breastfeeding at 10 months old I was exhausted and SO relieved when she started eating solids. Hang in there and yes, get some sleep!!

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  5. Oh I am so sorry your dad said that! Definitely not what you want to hear from a parent. Sounds like you need your space! You are doing great!

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