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| Scarlett really wants to pet Buddy. Buddy is not so interested. |
Now really, is Scarlett's first birthday for me or for her? Because I don't think Scarlett will know what is happening, other than a lot of people in her space causing her a lot of distress. She could end up being a very miserable, or very happy, little one year old.
I could put that money towards some really fun gifts for Scarlett...although really, a pack of tissue paper and a cardboard box are all that she really needs.
The thing is, I have a very small family locally. We aren't close with my mom's side of the family and my dad's side lives out of town and will be away on vacation anyway. Basically, it's just me and Scarlett, my parents and my grandmother...and our dog Buddy, of course...who will attend the party....so in essence, it's like any other Wednesday. Today a friend said to me, "But she's only going to have one first birthday. Are you going to look back on it 5 years from now and regret not doing anything?"
It's just a lot of money to put out if Scarlett isn't going to even know it's happening. At the same time, I don't want her birthday to go unrecognized.
I'd be interested in your feedback.
Decisions, decisions!
I think big parties for infants and toddler are a waste of money (they are definitely for the adults) and often overwhelm the birthday child.
ReplyDeleteBut on the other hand, if you think you will regret not having one, go for it. Being that she won't remember this day, in the long run it won't matter how it actually goes, right? ;)
Wow, has the past 10 months flown by! I can't believe that she's already so close to being 1!
ReplyDeleteI did a big party for O's birthday and it was a great time. Expensive but I really enjoyed sharing the day with everyone. It was absolutely more for me than it was for him. He did enjoy his first taste of cake but overall he wasn't really impressed.
You can still make a big deal out of her birthday and celebrate without spending lots of money. If it's only going to be a few people is it possible to just have the party at your house?
I agree with Meg, you can make a big deal of Scarlett's birthday without spending too much money. And she may not take too much notice of a party now but she will love to look at photos/videos of her party (even if it's just a small get together) & hear stories when she's older...at least that's the way I look at it...
ReplyDeleteThe problem is I live in a condo - 900 sq. feet. It will be the end of December. I don't really want to have everyone squished into my place, not to mention the boots, and coats. I just think about what a mess my little place will be. And when I close the two bedroom doors, it will look much smaller. Plus, I don't want my parents to have to host...it's my party. So it's either rent the party room or just celebrate with my parents and grandmother. I keep going back and forth. On the other hand, it's just money, right? Although, it's money! LOL. Thanks for your advice.
ReplyDeleteContrary to what your friend said, I believe the first birthday is for us parents, not the child. Scarlet won't remember either way and I'm sure she won't hold a grudge when she's older and looks at the non-big-party pictres.. If it's either your house with only your parents and grandparents or an unfamiliar (expensive..) place with lots of people (does she know them all/most of them?) I would say have it at your place.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Billy - the party really is for the parent, not the baby. Scarlett will love looking at pictures of herself with her first cake - you don't need anything else besides that!
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